Take the Pressure off Yourself. If you set high expectations for yourself and for others, you’re more likely to feel let down. Be flexible as some things won’t go exactly as plan. You may feel as if people are focusing on you, but in reality, most people are probably wondering what you are thinking of them.
Identifying your specific needs. Are you afraid that you will say the wrong thing at the wrong time? Or you might say something to embarrass yourself in front of people? Remind yourself that although you may feel uncomfortable, that is the worst that can happen to you in this situation.
Do not look for relief in alcohol or drugs. Although it is tempting at times to “take the edge off” alcohol and drugs can make anxiety far worse. It could even trigger panic attacks.
Saying NO is normal. Try not to over-schedule yourself. You do not need to be a people pleaser. You don’t have to be guilted by the pressures of accepting every invitation that you may receive.